The perpetual quest for acceptance as parts of the social machinery is a form of psychic self-destruction. I am repulsed at the thought of our need to conform—to give up that which distinguishes us from all others so that we may become mere impersonations! How can one argue at all if one argues not from one's own authority but from the inimitable i

A statement beginning with the word you (that is, an evaluation of a situation with a second-person subject), whether explicit or disguised, often presumes to characterize, label, or evaluate someone else’s actions or experience or perspective, which is not something we’re in a legitimate position to do (with the possible exception of a skilled men

The reward feels good, and we keep doing what others want us to do in order to get the reward. With that fear of being punished and that fear of not getting the reward, we start pretending to be what we are not, just to please others, just to be good enough for someone else. We try to please Mom and Dad, we try to please the teachers at school, we

Now your whole life will be wasted in condemning others. That’s why people are such great fault–finders. They find fault with themselves—how can they avoid finding the same faults in others?