The only way you can ever really heal or find some sense of genuine contentment is in narrating your life as someone who loves you would.

Through her years of recovery she began to move beyond her identity as that little girl who was unreal and undeserving of attention. She learned that belonging didn’t depend on her efforts to please others. Now her work and way of relating to others arise from a deep and genuine well of caring. But to awaken from her trance, my mother had to stop r

Instead of trying to manage, direct, pressure or force; allow it. Try not to judge your feelings any more than you already have. Release all the judgments you have been holding on yourself that you can. Healing in the entire sense is going to heal everything in you, and healing yourself entirely is going to have a transformative effect on your real

Since her early wound involved ignoring her sensations and emotions — especially those of the needy child — her healing requires accepting, loving, and valuing all of those parts. And eventually, it includes uncovering and grieving her early heartbreak at not being valued or seen. Her healing has to be physically embodied: it must be a felt sense i