I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers. Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way. After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
He smoked and most other people didn’t, so he often felt guilty and ashamed. Steve tapped with him on releasing this guilt and shame. Such negative emotions don’t help us quit; they actually keep us beating ourselves up and being stuck.
Nick Ortner • The Tapping Solution: A Revolutionary System for Stress-Free Living
But previously I never accepted this; life always had to go how I wanted it to and others must behave how I thought they should.
Paul David • At Last A Life
So, the BIG, UGLY LIE becomes a BIG, UGLY BELIEF: Self-hate, judgment, blame, punishment, and rejection are all for your benefit because they’re the only things keeping you from being A TERRIBLE PERSON. (Have we made our point?) Would you please risk it and find out once and for all how you are WITHOUT the beatings and abuse?