I couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers.
Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way.
After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
Nathan Baschezx.comI couldn’t quit smoking until I convinced myself that smoking was for losers. Wasn’t enough to “want” to quit. I had to actively disdain it in an over the top way. After the identity-belief changed, the rest was (relatively) easy.
This is how I found the strength not to get on with my former life.
Chuck Palahniuk • Invisible Monsters Remix
True behavior change is identity change.
James Clear • Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones
Self-sabotage is the outward expression of the enduring-patterned person’s self-negation. It is a way of winning through losing. It must be done in passive-aggressive ways, of course, since he must not appear to be responsible for it. That is, it must seem like bad luck or an accident, something that is “not my fault.”
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
When it comes to quitting, the most painful thing to quit is who you are.