Why Listening Well Can Make Disagreements Less Damaging
- "But to listen is to act; of that, there’s no doubt. It takes effort and doesn’t happen by default."
Astra Taylor • The Right to Listen
According to Sharot, if you want to keep someone’s brain lit up and receptive to your point of view, you must not start your response with a statement of disagreement.
Steven Bartlett • The Diary of a CEO: The 33 Laws of Business and Life
Not the kind of listening that sorts what others say (or don’t say) through the lens of our justification-seeking agenda. Not the kind of listening that intensely looks for fallacies and logical flaws. Not the kind of listening that pounces on inconsistencies or a poorly chosen word or phrase.
The Arbinger Institute, • The Anatomy of Peace, Fourth Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
In thoughtful disagreement, your goal is not to convince the other party that you are right—it is to find out which view is true and decide what to do about it. In thoughtful disagreement, both parties are motivated by the genuine fear of missing important perspectives. Exchanges in which you really see what the other person is seeing and they real
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