What about the work you don’t see me do?

So I thought about all the things she’d told me over the phone, I said to the room, and I thought about her work that I couldn’t possibly comprehend, about the actual creative work she had done. All that delicate, handmade programming she did into the dead of night to switch one platform to another on some critical company deadline, how outside of

Some of these mothers may even think of themselves as happily settled into mothering. It’s just that they define it so differently! Their focus is on making sure the children are clothed and educated and that family conflicts stay out of sight.

There’s the artwork, the finished piece, framed and hung on a gallery wall, and there’s the art work, all the day-to-day stuff that goes on behind the scenes