Unfuck Your Boundaries: Build Better Relationships through Consent, Communication, and Expressing Your Needs
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Unfuck Your Boundaries: Build Better Relationships through Consent, Communication, and Expressing Your Needs
It’s time to communicate like an adult. They need to communicate from the standpoint of the psychological adult, not the critical parent or their child. The adult phrase I suggest they use is traditionally called an “I message.” More specifically, I suggest they use the verbal phrase I want or I don’t want. This is what an adult says when she is ex
... See moreDaniel Beaver • Love Yourself: The First Step to a Successful Relationship
One form of life-alienating communication is the use of moralistic judgments that imply wrongness or badness on the part of those who don’t act in harmony with our values. Another is the use of comparisons, which can block compassion both for others and for ourselves. Life-alienating communication also obscures our awareness that we are each respon
... See moreMarshall B. Rosenberg • Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life: Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships (Nonviolent Communication Guides)
In the face of this emotion, what is the loss this person is grappling with? Putting it a couple of different ways may help, so here are a few nuances: Whoa, this dude is clearly upset. Look at him go off the deep end. What is he protecting? She’s freaking right out!!! It just keeps getting worse. I don’t know if I can handle this, I feel like givi
... See moreAndrea J. Lee • We Need To Talk: Your Guide to Challenging Business Conversations (Wealthy Thought Leader Library)
This story highlights the importance of not expecting others to read your mind, but instead telling them what specific actions you want them to take. While those who adopted the leaving and merging patterns may have become quite skillful at reading what others are feeling and what to do to make them happier, those who adopted the rigid pattern did
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