A statement beginning with the word you (that is, an evaluation of a situation with a second-person subject), whether explicit or disguised, often presumes to characterize, label, or evaluate someone else’s actions or experience or perspective, which is not something we’re in a legitimate position to do (with the possible exception of a skilled men

A way of living in which one is constantly troubled by how one is seen by others is a self-centered lifestyle in which one’s sole concern is with the “I.”

Morally speaking, judgement gets a bad rap in the modern world. We talk about being non-judgemental as though it were one of the highest goals in life. In fact, it is impossible not to judge because judgement is the way in which the human mind thinks. What defines the low frequency of the victim mind is that you identify with what you think — in ot