why it's hard to make friends as an adult:
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
why it's hard to make friends as an adult: where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
Reminder: Lots of Connections ≠ Lots of Friends
Rachel Greenspan • 3_TRENDS_Vol.13: Rachel Greenspan: Undecorated (Online) Homes, Career M&A + Rolodex Death
You need shared contexts and shared interests. The reason why it’s difficult to make friends as an adult is because where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests. Where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context. A place li... See more
The more people that share a common point of reference for an experience, the more people you have who will reach out to you to reconnect about that thing you have in common.”
Kat Vellos • We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
Though we may long to share the inner circles, too often we seem able only to hover with others around the outer ones, returning home from yet another social gathering with the most sincere parts of us aching for recognition and companionship. Traditionally, religion provided an ideal explanation for and solution to this painful loneliness.