why it's hard to make friends as an adult:
where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests
where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
Patricia Moutwitter.comwhy it's hard to make friends as an adult: where there's shared context (seeing the same people over many months daily i.e. workplaces) there's a lack of shared interests where there's shared interest (hobby groups, bookclubs, etc) there's a lack of shared context
Our story is not unusual. In your 30s and 40s, plenty of new people enter your life, through work, children’s play dates and, of course, Facebook. But actual close friends — the kind you make in college, the kind you call in a crisis — those are in shorter supply.
Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
it becomes tougher to meet the three conditions that sociologists since the 1950s have considered crucial to making close friends: proximity; repeated, unplanned interactions; and a setting that encourages people to let their guard down and confide in each other, said Rebecca G. Adams, a professor of sociology and gerontology at the University of N... See more
Why Is It Hard to Make Friends Over 30? (Published 2012)
Encountering for the first time communities in the real world founded on ideas, I began to realize that I had always felt what my friend David Perell calls “intellectual loneliness.” It’s a feeling that almost no one in your social circles shares the same passion for ideas as you. I realized I had always felt that there was no one I could share my ... See more