The Talking and Thinking Gap — Daniel Stillman
The “thinking mind” is the part of the mind that seeks to make sense of the world; it analyses situations, imagines scenarios, evaluates solutions, and tells stories. It’s an inherent aspect of what makes us human. However, it’s limited by multiple cognitive bottlenecks.
The human mind has many limitations. For instance, our limited sensory capabili... See more
The human mind has many limitations. For instance, our limited sensory capabili... See more
Ness Labs • Cognitive bottlenecks: the inherent limits of the thinking mind
In fact, the gap between what you’re really thinking and what you’re saying is part of what makes a conversation difficult. You’re distracted by all that’s going on inside. You’re uncertain about what’s okay to share, and what’s better left unsaid. And you know that just saying what you’re thinking would probably not make the conversation any easie
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Perhaps we should all learn to talk less and say more.
Jim Carroll • Living in a Lorem Ipsum World: Sometimes We Need to Talk Less and Say More — Jim Carroll's Blog
Putting ideas into words doesn't have to mean writing, of course. You can also do it the old way, by talking. But in my experience, writing is the stricter test. You have to commit to a single, optimal sequence of words. Less can go unsaid when you don't have tone of voice to carry meaning. And you can focus in a way that would seem excessive in co... See more