The Science & Process of Healing from Grief

While you are close to that Person, object, or animal and intentionally experiencing attachment, don't distract yourself or think about counterfactuals (i.e., "what ifs"); get up close and experience attachment. Getting enough sleep is essential for hormone regulation, neuroplasticity, and setting yourself up for a healthy autonomic state to cope w... See more

Relationships are mapped through the brain and body using three dimensions:

1. space


2. time


3. closeness (emotional)

Grief is a process of distancing and reordering our relationship from space, time, and closeness (for example, not expecting to see them at a certain time or place, etc.) in order to cope with loss.

It doesn't matter what reason a person, animal, or thing left your life (death, rehoming, lost item, etc.) you can be incredibly attached to and grieve for them. When we experience pain, we have to find ways to resolve it. Grief is a state of pain and a state of wanting, which is the catalyst for activation. When someone we know goes, we get into a... See more

When you lose a limb, you might feel like you're still holding on to it even after it's been amputated - grief feels like a phantom limb. For us to understand grief, we need to know that there are five stages (non-linear, not everyone moves through all of them):

1. denial


2. anger


3. bargaining


4. depression


5. acceptance.

There's a lot to do with life circumstances, h... See more