The Right Way to Pull a Weed
What makes maitri such a different approach is that we are not trying to solve a problem. We are not striving to make pain go away or to become a better person. In fact, we are giving up control altogether and letting concepts and ideals fall apart.
Pema Chodron • When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (Shambhala Classics)
Someone set up your mind in the following hilarious way. All day long you are tortured by vicious thoughts. If you try to make them go away, that, too, becomes an unhelpful kind of self-bludgeoning. However, if you tranquilly accept whatever you’re thinking and feeling, for a period of time, eventually a different, more pleasant state of mind obtai... See more
Through her years of recovery she began to move beyond her identity as that little girl who was unreal and undeserving of attention. She learned that belonging didn’t depend on her efforts to please others. Now her work and way of relating to others arise from a deep and genuine well of caring. But to awaken from her trance, my mother had to stop r
... See moreTara Brach • Radical Acceptance
Everything you do to try to get out causes you to sink deeper. Every place you step to try to avoid the place you’re in, also pulls you down. In quicksand, if you stop struggling, you will sink more slowly. In self-hate, when you stop struggling (when you accept), you are free.