The Power of Eye Contact

When you talk to this person, you feel heard and understood, as though this person really gets you.

Standing tall and straight, with chest forward and shoulder down, elbows slightly out and forearms in with knuckles out, facing the man squarely, with narrow eyes;

member, in an intentional exercise. Making infinitesimally brief eye contact with strangers on the street. Making longer eye contact with strangers such as waiters, salesclerks, and cashiers. Making substantial eye contact during conversations with friends, family members, co-workers, and other people you know. Making substantial eye contact during

“standing tall and straight,” is the universal expression of readiness, preparedness, and confidence in the face of a challenge.

we can see that body language communicates to us in two ways: the direct way and the indirect way, which correlate roughly to Darwin’s two principles mentioned above: serviceable expressions and antithesis. In the direct way, a certain expression or posture has a direct utility in relation to the emotion involved by preparing us for action related

to be bracketed persistently into someone else’s visual field meant that we were being watched by a predator;

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In high school and early college, I was a fan of the rock band Grateful Dead. Whatever you may think of the band and its music and followers, some of the most personally meaningful moments from that period in my life—moments that I will remember for the rest of my life—came from seeing them play live. When the band got on stage, a collective joy ru

This is what Goleman refers to as “attunement,” another crucial part of our social intelligence. He calls this an “agendaless presence”—it’s an ability to just be with another person, experiencing him