The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control
As they do this, they will have to give up their idealized image of themselves as superior and super-competent, and return to seeing themselves as an ordinary human being. This will include learning to track their own weaknesses and needs, rather than just their strengths. Their patterned habit is to see only their strengths. To balance that, they
... See moreSteven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
Perfectionism is a mindset that demands we perform as superbly as possible to be sufficient as a person. We conflate our goodness as a person with our performance in areas we care about—academics, our job, our social behavior, fitness, appearance, parenting, home organization, the list goes on.
Ellen Hendriksen • “If I Let Go of Perfectionism I Won’t Be as Good as I Am Now.”
My guiding assumption was “Something is fundamentally wrong with me,” and I struggled to control and fix what felt like a basically flawed self. I drove myself in academics, was a fervent political activist and devoted myself to a very full social life. I avoided pain (and created more) with an addiction to food and a preoccupation with achievement
... See moreTara Brach • Radical Acceptance
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