The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships

expectations are resentments waiting to happen.

Along with Threes and Eights, they need to remember that when they are absolutely sure they’re right, they’re probably wrong.

In a relationship with a One, honesty is essential, but telling them that they are good in ways that they can hear it is the greater gift. Do it as often as you can in all the ways you can.

Ones are the only people on the Enneagram who actually believe every step of a task should be done correctly, so they will have to be careful that the high standards they set for themselves don’t become unreasonable expectations for others.

When Sevens do anything out of a sense of duty, their lack of enthusiasm is palpable; they are present, but they hold back on their energy waiting for some future event that is more promising.

9s: Ones have a lot in common with Nines: both repress anger, though for different reasons. They both also like to ruminate about decisions for a long time, so be aware that someone will have to step up when the time comes for action.

They believe criticism is caring, so they have to be taught that not everybody feels the same way about being corrected or encouraged to seek improvement.

Most adults who are not Sevens have forgotten how to play. Invite a Seven to teach you about the gift of playing.

Sevens believe their needs are simple and few, when in reality they are complex people with complex needs.