The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God

You can say, “I want someone who will accept me just as I am,” but in your heart of hearts you know that you are not perfect, that there are plenty of things about you that need to be changed, and that anyone who gets to know you up close and personal will want to change them. And you also know that the other person will have needs, deep needs, and

another rather than to be happy, and you will find a new and deeper happiness.

However, appreciating our differences and making them work in harmony (versus yielding to the urge to kill each other) requires great effort and willingness to compromise and/or concede. The secret-in-the-sauce of marriage is not so much about finding compatibility (compatibility is easy), it is about discovering ways to handle and process incompat

servant puts someone else’s needs ahead of his or her own. That is how all believers should live with each other. And if all believers are to serve each other in this way, how much more intentionally and intensely should husbands and wives have this attitude toward one another?