The Mastery of Self: A Toltec Guide to Personal Freedom (Toltec Mastery Series)

My real need, of course, was to realize that I didn’t need a man to fill what only felt like these insatiable emotional needs. The needs themselves were not real, but merely a reflection of the fact that I thought of myself as less than perfect. Salvation would only come through my relinquishing the thought that I wasn’t good enough. By defending m

told her that if we don't have everything we desire it's because we're withholding it from ourselves—we feel we aren't worthy. When we feel unworthy, it's often because we think there's something bad about us. And when we feel there's something fundamentally bad about us we usually feel angry.

Once you have disidentified from your mind, whether you are right or wrong makes no difference to your sense of self at all, so the forcefully compulsive and deeply unconscious need to be right, which is a form of violence, will no longer be there.

6. Take responsibility for the image and the vicious circle it has created. At any stage of the work on our images, their hold on the unconscious can immediately be lessened by our willingness to take responsibility for our lives. Even if we do not know exactly what in us causes the disharmony or unhappiness, assuming self-responsibility loosens parts