The Happiness Trap: How to Stop Struggling and Start Living: A Guide to ACT

Develop the courage to solve those problems that can be solved, the serenity to accept those problems that can’t be solved, and the wisdom to know the difference. If

In ACT, our main interest in a thought is not whether it’s true or false, but whether it’s helpful; that is, if we pay attention to this thought, will it help us create the life we want?

Identify your mind’s favorite stories, then give them names, such as the “loser!” story, or the “my life sucks!” story, or the “I can’t do it!” story. Often there will be several variations on a theme. For example, the “nobody likes me” story may show up as “I’m boring,” the “I’m undesirable” story as “I’m fat,” and the “I’m inadequate” story as “I

Never set as your goal something that a dead person can do better than you. For example, to stop eating chocolate—that’s something a dead person can do better than you because, no matter what, they’ll definitely never, ever eat chocolate again.