The Girl with the Curly Hair - Asperger's and Me

I find it really hard to understand - and have patience for - people who are unable to provide me with adequate explanations. Consequently, romantic relationships are really hard for me.

always say that you can be either be happy or sad with an autism spectrum disorder. You have the choice. I choose to be happy, life’s a lot nicer this way.

I have very limited emotional vocabulary. I can usually only explain that I am feeling either sad or happy. This can be confusing for everyone, including me.

I want to be reliant upon myself and not someone else.

The Complete Guide to Asperger’s Syndrome by Tony Attwood

The AS typically desires solidity, stability and reliability and this type of relationship will take time to build and progress.

I wonder whether having such intense special interests has any relationship to being depressed? When I’m unable to pursue my interests, it feels as though my world has been destroyed. I am reliant on these things to get me through each day.

Passion may be lacking in the relationship, which could be hard for the NT. Partners may want to explore other ways of being intimate, e.g. massage.

I’ve read that having perfectionist tendencies makes you more likely to be a sufferer of depression. I’ve suffered from a somewhat “neurotic” perfectionism; in the past I’ve not been able to be happy with anything less than one hundred percent and I’ll dwell on mistakes.