The Game

before you can be a Player, you must accept and embrace the nature of the game. Today that game is defined by immediacy, urgency, FOMO (fear of missing out), imagery, and perception that can change in 24 hours. If you hope to be good at Game, you must embrace the Churn. That doesn’t mean finding a lasting healthy relationship is impossible. On the

You Create the Tension, and You Push It Away “Baby, we’ve got to slow this down. . . .” Some people think that it’s the man’s job to escalate and the woman’s job is to resist. Instead, think of it as the man’s job to do both. If you are constantly trying to get more kino, like gaining yards on a football field, it telegraphs far too much interest a

Practice blurting. Say the things that come to mind without filtering or editing. Sometimes, it will be funny and unexpected. Sometimes it will be off the wall or inappropriate. That’s okay. If a woman has high interest in you, you have to work pretty hard to kill her interest. On the other hand, not saying anything will almost guarantee a total la

If you follow me on Twitter, you’ll occasionally see me post a “How would you open?” tweet. I drop a picture of a woman in the tweet and ask my followers how they’d open her.