The Fog of Change

I largely agree with the conservative strain of thinkers who dig up the old wisdom of how self-inflicted responsibility makes you happier, our gardens that we care for, I think that must be true. Starting a family, a company, does that to you. But perfect happiness in my life I have only ever felt in moments of utter peace, that transcendence, all ... See more

Garmezy, and about the strategies of resilient children, the learning from adversity, the seeking out mentors to replace absentee parents, I’d done all of that, I would read about it and cry. When I had PTSD, I had no concept of the future. During the first year, I couldn’t even visualise the next day, it was very limiting, then it gradually expand... See more

It remains my conviction that only people who understand violence can build safe places,

They say community founders and joiners come from the outside, they who have lost forms of belonging see them as a construct not as a given, they know you have to, that you can, build this. The transition from world user to world builder was a painful one for me, I wouldn’t have ended my intellectual’s meta-existence if it hadn’t been for the gener... See more

Stamina, especially when combined with enjoyment and a choice of goal, trumps most other strengths

“what you want is what you do”, when you don’t know what you want, just watch what you do, on a Sunday or after hours, what you read, whom you call, there’s your answer.

Because sure, there’s always some change going on, we ourselves are endless processes, but no, it’s not every day that eras end, it’s not always that we’re waiting for a beginning. Not every age group governs through a reboot. An era is a home of sorts, and we’re becoming homeless.