The Feminist Killjoy Handbook: The Radical Potential of Getting in the Way

Through feminism you make sense of wrongs; you realize that you are not in the wrong. But when you speak of something as being wrong, you end up being in the wrong all over again.

When the gender system does not become a habit, you have failed to be habituated. And that is how feminism can be lived: as the failure to be habituated to a gender system.

But the hierarchical nature of gendered social relations within a patriarchal culture can be in a kind of tension with the substantive content of women’s subordination therein. Take some feminine-coded forms of care work in particular. When women are tasked not only with performing certain forms of emotional, social, domestic, sexual, and reproduct