The masculine partner breathes open his lover, warming her closure to soft surrender with his gentle and persistent force of presence. The feminine partner offers her untamed light as a portal for her lover’s entry, attracting his wandering attention with her feast of delight, calling him to depth with the surrender of her heart.

Don’t just touch her skin—bring all of your awareness and feeling to your fingers as they caress her. Don’t just kiss her—allow your lips and tongue to sense her mouth fully.

Your only job is to pay attention. There, in that moment of listening, of using your desire as a compass, you go from experiencing sex as a science to sex as an art. That is the switch that turns the lights on. It’s what your sex life is asking for.

Think of yourself as a facilitator of your lover’s pleasure, not the source of that pleasure. When two (or more) powerful, responsible, knowledgeable, erotically charged beings come together to share their power in erotic love, there are no limits to where they can go and what they can achieve.