Sexually, allow yourself to surrender so fully that you feel “fucked” in your deepest parts, physically and emotionally. Allow your heart to be ravished by a force of love much larger than the penis of your man or the details of your relationship. When both you and your man let go completely during sex—while he practices invading you with conscious

Both of these forms of closure, long-term and short-term, can be undone in sexual practice. You can actually use sex to de-ice the frozen heart.

Don’t just touch her skin—bring all of your awareness and feeling to your fingers as they caress her. Don’t just kiss her—allow your lips and tongue to sense her mouth fully.