The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

In other words, rather than being a strict area of scholarship, Adlerian psychology is accepted as a realisation;

He won’t get anywhere by not submitting anything.

It’s actually that he wants to leave the possibility of ‘I can do it if I try’ open, by not committing to anything. He doesn’t want to expose his work to criticism,

Everyone is in this ‘condition of wanting to improve’ that is the pursuit of superiority.

will not cure it.’ She pressed me, ‘Why?’ I explained, ‘Look, it’s thanks to your fear of blushing that you can accept your dissatisfaction with yourself and the world around you, and with a life that isn’t going well. It’s thanks to your fear of blushing, and it’s caused by it.’

Regardless of what may have happened in the past, it is the meaning that is attributed to it that determines the way someone’s present will be.

Yes. Adlerian psychology is a psychology of courage. Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.

But those who make themselves look bigger on borrowed power are essentially living according to other people’s value systems—they

Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures; they’re of no value.