The Courage to be Disliked: The Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to free yourself, change your life and achieve real happiness

Regardless of what may have happened in the past, it is the meaning that is attributed to it that determines the way someone’s present will be.

Yes. Adlerian psychology is a psychology of courage. Your unhappiness cannot be blamed on your past or your environment. And it isn’t that you lack competence. You just lack courage. One might say you are lacking in the courage to be happy.

But those who make themselves look bigger on borrowed power are essentially living according to other people’s value systems—they

We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.’

It’s actually that he wants to leave the possibility of ‘I can do it if I try’ open, by not committing to anything. He doesn’t want to expose his work to criticism,

will not cure it.’ She pressed me, ‘Why?’ I explained, ‘Look, it’s thanks to your fear of blushing that you can accept your dissatisfaction with yourself and the world around you, and with a life that isn’t going well. It’s thanks to your fear of blushing, and it’s caused by it.’

Answers from others are nothing more than stopgap measures; they’re of no value.

In other words, rather than being a strict area of scholarship, Adlerian psychology is accepted as a realisation;

Right now, you are unable to feel really happy. This is because you have not learned to love yourself. And to try to love yourself, you are wishing to be reborn as a different person. You’re hoping to become like Y, and throw away who you are now.