The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge

Remind yourself that experiencing your anger doesn’t mean you have to express it

start believing that, somewhere inside, you know what you want, and just take a stab at it. Over time you will develop a clearer channel to that part of you that does know what you want and need.

to understand what they may have needed to go to sleep to in themselves in the past to get along in the world.

the more we can be aware of how our passion functions and can consciously work toward the embodiment of our higher Virtue, the more we can free ourselves from the unconscious habits and fixated patterns of our type

When there isn’t very much awareness around the move to Three, it can occur as an anxious and confused sense of “doing” in response to extreme situations of not having done enough.

indicates issues and themes from childhood that must be consciously acknowledged and owned so that we can move forward and not be held back by unfinished business from the past.

So practice giving feedback to people you trust—and let yourself start with something really small and work up from there. Work on owning your power and reminding yourself that you have the strength and the steadiness to handle whatever comes—and that conflict (or feedback) does not automatically lead to separation.

Difficult feelings related to not being supported and recognized, or not feeling connected or included, can conveniently be forgotten. This potentially false sense of comfort comes at a high price, however: the disconnection from your internal life. If Nines can work to discover what feelings they habitually avoid as part of their pattern of overad

to begin to think, feel, and act with more choice and awareness.