The Anatomy of Peace, Fourth Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
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The Anatomy of Peace, Fourth Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
Instead, we should pursue “five kingdom habits that build trust.’ These are the five habits that they suggest cultivating.
- Pray. Pray for our own hearts to be soft but also pray for their whole lives.
- Learn. We can learn what causes their distrust. Practice asking good questions.
- Bond. Make space in your life for people. They write “The best conve
Be a trustworthy human
“As we’ve been talking about, no matter what we’re doing on the outside, people respond primarily to how we’re feeling about them on the inside. And how we’re feeling about them depends on whether we’re in or out of the box concerning them. Let me illustrate that point further with a couple of examples.
The Arbinger Institute • Leadership and Self-Deception: Getting out of the Box
There’s something deeper than behavior that determines our influence on others—it’s whether we’re in or out of the box. You don’t know much about the box yet, but when we’re in the box, our view of reality is distorted—we see neither ourselves nor others clearly. We are self-deceived. And that creates all kinds of trouble for the people around us.