Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection

when I’m in a conversation with someone now, I’m trying to push against that and get us into narrative mode. I’m no longer content to ask, “What do you think about X?” Instead, I ask, “How did you come to believe X?” This is a framing that invites people to tell a story about what events led them to think the way they do. Similarly, I don’t ask peo

They recommend using open-ended questions, paying careful attention to tone, and asking self-revelatory questions a bit earlier than you think is okay

Art Aron 36 questions. A. Aron et al. (1997). “The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings,” Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin 23: 363–77.