Daydreaming, reveries, doodling and fantasizing are all light trance states. You can go into trance by meditating, chanting, dancing or drumming.

THE ROOT OF THE WORD ‘SEX’ actually means to divide or cut apart, from the Latin sexus or secus. It comes from the ancient idea that gods and people were originally androgynous and had to be separated into unisexual beings. Thus sex is about the desire to reconnect and end that separation.

Anxiety is just excitement without enough breath. This isn’t just a pleasing aphorism—it’s also true physiologically. The biochemical state of anxiety is literally the same as excitement, only with less oxygen. Which gives us a straightforward antidote to anxiety. When you’re feeling tense, simply deepen and slow your breathing. Use your whole ches

To become more erotically adept, create intentions related to learning, practicing, expanding and experimenting, whether on your own or with partners. When you begin an erotic session, or play any of the games in this book, I invite you to create conscious intentions. Have them be clear, self-loving and pleasure-positive. Notice how that alters you

Creativity is a type of learning process where the teacher and pupil are located in the same individual. ARTHUR KOESTLER

Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can’t practice any other virtue consistently. MAYA ANGELOU

IMAGINE DOING SOMETHING SEXY to someone else, especially something that you want to learn to get off on. For example, if you’d like to learn how to come from giving oral sex, while your southern parts are being pleasured, imagine having your favorite type of genitals in your mouth simultaneously. Another option is to do this during partner sex. Whi

Since you have an energetic and anatomical inner channel running from top to bottom, and what happens at one end is linked to what’s happening at the other, you can use your breathing to open either end. Breathing through a loose open mouth and throat can fire up your southern regions and be a natural aphrodisiac.

Connection is your most basic way of being, from infancy to old age. The more you can experience and celebrate your connection with yourself, your partners, and with everyone and everything in your lives, the more you become able to access your capacity for pleasure and ecstasy. Embracing the fact that we’re hardwired for connection and pleasure is