In short, you’ve been trained to upset yourself. For instance, when other people don’t live up to your computer’s expectations, it torments you with frustration, anger, or bitterness. When things are not under your control, or the future is uncertain, your computer insists that you experience anxiety, tension, or worry. Then you expend a lot of ene

That’s the problem that lovers go on trying to solve, and cannot solve. What they are saying again and again is this: “I am such a beautiful person, but you make me look so ugly.” Nobody is making you look ugly—you are ugly. Sorry, but that’s how it is. Be thankful to the other, be grateful to the other, because he helps you to see your face. Don’t

Turn it around. The original statement “Paul doesn’t listen to me,” when turned around, becomes “I don’t listen to myself.” Is that turnaround as true or truer? Now identify examples of how you don’t listen to yourself in that very same situation with Paul. Find at least three specific, genuine examples of how this turnaround is true. For me, one e

In the box, my whole way was blaming—both my thoughts and my feelings told me Nancy was at fault.