Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
One key thing to remember is this: The detached partner is acting out of love. As they fall deeper in love with a person, and as the relationship grows, their fear increases. The marriage is the worst relationship in their life precisely because they love their partner so desperately. The detached partner says, “I am utterly miserable in every way,
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The small child is not yet able to discriminate between positive and negative life circumstances. She loves her parents and needs their presence to feel secure. Thus she takes pleasure in being with them, whether or not their behavior merits her love. When treated with cruelty or humiliation, rejection or withdrawal, the child “attaches” the pleasu
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But, since orienting themselves to love and connection wound up hurting them in the past, they now orient themselves to the truth of the situation instead. They see discovering the truth as the key to their survival, whereas love and connection are expendable.
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