
Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity

When just starting out, the two people may need to overcome resentment which has built up under the surface and festered under their wounds. Detached individuals will likely feel a surge of anxiety the first several times they contemplate opening up. In time, if both parties follow this communication style and use it consistently, both issues shoul
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If the child gets a D, the parent doesn’t take it personally and doesn’t freak out at the kid. Instead, they sit down and make it clear the child is capable of much better than a D grade, and together they figure out what the most challenging obstacles were.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
Micromanaging their decisions so they never grow beyond your control is smothering and will lead to either a weak adult or resentful estrangement. Educate your children for their own path.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
What this means is that the detached person denying their needs will begin to exhibit less and less control over their behavior as their beast-self manifests more fully and searches for fulfillment.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
Their significant other may be tired and yawning, so instead of taking it personally they suggest loading up on caffeine, going somewhere with more engaging activities, or even cutting the date short and heading home for a quiet movie night and an early bedtime. They don’t take circumstances or lack of enthusiasm personally because the goal isn’t t
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“I need you to start asking for clarity before you react to your assumptions.”
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
He blames his dad for all the family’s struggles and focuses on taking care of everything his mother needs. She often leans on Eric and cries on his shoulder whenever one of her frequent boyfriends breaks up with her.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
Eating healthy, attending to your finances in a responsible way, selecting careful romantic partners in case of accidental reproduction, and building a stable home to insure maximum emotional health for your children are all enormously important for your living legacy.
Adam Smith • Slaying Your Fear: A guide for people who grapple with insecurity
After the first time Eric wondered if Steve was just avoiding him, but by the third time he’s sure of it. Eric doesn’t confront Steve about the concerns and always acts cheerful when they have to reschedule, but inside he’s seething with disappointment and wonders why he’s not good enough for Steve to spend time with.