As destructive as these patterns are, they are very hard to change. The moment we deny ourselves some gratification, we feel deprived. Part X appeals to our selfishness, telling us we should never have to feel deprived. The only way to fight this is to have an equally selfish reason not to give in to our impulses. In other words, we need to find a

who is it they are becoming; and fourth, is there alignment of who they are in present time and what they’re becoming, their vision of their life, the practices in which they’re presently engaged? That is, is the competency, capacity, and commitment present to bring their becoming to fruition? Or, are they simply being driven by a hope, desire,