She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman (Kerner)

To get the most out of a sensual experience, it’s important to talk about it before, during, and after the do.

on the whole women tend to have a lot (and I’m talking a lot) of negative conditioning regarding sex. Much more than men do, in fact. Until we thaw out the iceberg of fear and shame that encases a lot of female sexuality in our culture—a thawing out that happens naturally when she is stroked—there is a tendency for her to return to her old habits o

A good, patient and attentive partner who knows your body can almost systematically bring you to orgasm. The more often they do this, the less you even need to think about it. Let’s not forget that the penis and the clitoris are homologous organs, so there is no reason one works less well than the other. No ifs or buts!

If you want a lifelong orgasm, you have to let go of the comfort of being told what to do by the outside world and start looking for direction within. You have to start charting your own course, using your own compass. That compass is your own desire.