Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself
Offering ourselves such care might feel strange and unfamiliar at first, as it did for Daniel. Sometimes extending compassion to ourselves in this way feels downright embarrassing. It can trigger a sense of shame about being needy and undeserving, shame about being self-indulgent. But this revolutionary act of treating ourselves tenderly can begin
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When you don’t trust yourself, you’re waiting to catch yourself in a mistake so you can pounce on your own certainty about how unworthy of trust you are. You get petty. You become fixated on your mistakes, and you keep a tally of those mistakes. In contrast, when you notice you’ve been numbing out all week beyond a level you’re comfortable with and
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Caught in the trance of unworthiness, our desires fixate on soothing, once and for all, our anxiety about imperfection. We strive to tie up all the loose ends and to avoid making mistakes, even though we know both are impossible. We want to feel “good enough” all the time in our work, parenting, relationships, health, appearance, and life. We want
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This leads to the binge—the shopping, the impulse purchase, the two or three glasses of wine at the end of the day. It is as if you are saying to yourself, “I can’t give you a day off or even an hour of doing what you want—nor can I let you take a break or daydream—but I can give you a treat the next chance we get.” You feel like you deserve it aft
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