Real Marriage: The Truth About Sex, Friendship, and Life Together

There is a freedom that comes from not being a slave to my libido. Indeed, it is also a gift to my partner to learn not to need, not imposing a disordered hunger on our relationship—a hunger that, even in the context of a marriage, can be (if we’re honest) rapacious.

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Christianity has glorified marriage more than any other religion: and nearly all the greatest love poetry in the world has been produced by Christians. If anyone says that sex, in itself, is bad, Christianity contradicts him at once. But, of course, when people say, “Sex is nothing to be ashamed of,” they may mean “the state into which the sexual i