Platonic: How Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Help You Make and Keep Friends

Grab your journal and make a list of the things your friends do that give you the feeling of being valued and connected. Then list the things that you do to demonstrate your commitment to your friends. Are there things you can do more of? Have you ever asked a friend what actions they appreciate the most as a demonstration of caring and dedication?

Friendships provide a safe place to be vulnerable, uncomfortable, ask “stupid questions,” and genuinely contribute to each other’s development, empathy, and understanding.

firmly believe that a robust immersion in quality connection marked by vulnerability, self-disclosure, and empathetic listening, experienced in a concentrated form, can fast-track a friendship into existence in a shorter amount of time.

The real act of, say, building a friendship or creating a community involves performing a series of small, concrete social actions well: disagreeing without poisoning the relationship; revealing vulnerability at the appropriate pace; being a good listener; knowing how to end a conversation gracefully; knowing how to ask for and offer forgiveness; k