Our relationship to children
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Saved by Alex Dobrenko
Our relationship to children
Saved by Alex Dobrenko
The truth about children is that they are here to meet their needs, not ours. Some parents don’t realize this and think that children should be willing to act against their self-interest, give up what they want most, and do whatever a parent asks.
He said that with the vast majority of cases of kids with attention problems that come into his office, if he listens carefully and offers practical support to change the child’s environment, it almost always reduces or ends the problem they have.
The modern style of parenting is not just exhausting for adults; it is also based on assumptions about what children need to thrive that are not supported by evidence from our evolutionary past. For most of human history, people had lots of kids, and children hung out in intergenerational social groups in which they were not heavily supervised. You
... See moreif children hear nothing about their parents’ jobs, or if they are given only simplistic answers to their inquiries about “what mommy and daddy do at work,” they are going to be programmed with naive beliefs.