No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model

Systems of parts and people tend to polarize, form protective alliances, and exclude or cut off from each other whenever they are traumatized and lack effective leadership.

For us to live in this culture and not see the suffering of its exiles or feel the outrage of what we are doing to the Earth, we need distractions. We are provided with a plethora of firefighter activities to help us numb the pain of this moral injury. Remember, Self sees, feels, and acts to change injustice, so to not do any of that we need illega

creativity, courage, curiosity, a sense of connection, compassion, clarity, calm, confidence.

In those higher realms you can access a lot of pure Self, which feels great—even though it doesn’t heal anything and can make exiles feel even more abandoned.

Other managers don’t want us to feel good about ourselves for fear that we’ll take risks and get hurt. They protect us by tearing us apart. They are the self-hating parts of us who will sabotage anything that might make us feel good. They may let us try meditation or other spiritual practices, but usually just to reduce stress rather than to commun