My Dream is Not a Baby

This is why when people ask me, “How can I do what you’re doing?” I can’t tell them what they want to hear. They want easy answers, a shortcut to a future state of success. But the path that will lead us to the life we want is uniquely our own, inevitably filled with the exact challenges we’d rather avoid.

Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself. They come through you, not from you. And though they are with you, they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwell in th

Daydream. What did you always dream of doing while you were growing up? Is that still attractive to you now? If not, what do you dream of today? Whatever it may be, take your dreams seriously. Why shouldn’t you at least try to make your life what you want it to be?

“Those who look to parenthood as a solution to their discontent will typically find that the rewards, though real, are some years in the future.”