Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed

I had always thought my best sessions were the ones where I explained things clearly. It turned out my patients liked the ones where I was passionate about change. It mattered less to them what I said than what they sensed stirring in my soul. I stopped trying to emulate the detached, cerebral style of the shrinks I’d grown up with. Instead, I foun

When people hear about my whole-person approach to healing, they want to dive right in and meet their inner child, start the reparenting process, do the ego work, remove the trauma. This desire for the quick fix, emblematic of the Western culture in many ways, comes from an understandable want to end the incredible discomfort of living with these w

A branch of clinical psychology called “narrative therapy” holds that we all walk around, day in and day out, telling ourselves the stories of our lives. (As Ashleigh Brilliant once put it, “My life has great characters; I just haven’t figured out the plot.”) No storyteller can describe everything that ever happens to a hero; as autobiographers, we

recognizing the role of Thought in creating experience makes us less inclined to run amok when we’ve gone offline. Instead of blaming our job, our partner, our kids, or the universe in general for our problems, we recognize that but for our thinking, we’d be having a completely different perception and experience of our situation.