The process of crossing the threshold is demanding for each and every one of us. When the cracks appear in a long-held belief, it causes anxiety and pain. As the certain world is replaced by great uncertainty, the risk is that we cling to what we know more than ever. The gravitational pull of the familiar exerts itself, no matter how dysfunctional

Expanding our sense of freedom, aliveness, love, and peace means we’re going to be moving beyond what seems comfortable or safe. It means we’re going to invite small amounts of “danger” in the form of discomfort, risk, or failure.

Resilience The wise have a solid sense of what they can survive. They know just how much can go wrong and things will still be – just about – liveable. The unwise person draws the boundaries of their contentment far too far out, so that it encompasses, and depends upon, fame, money, personal relationships, popularity, health … The wise person sees

The key lies in the felt experience of safety, and safety, from my family therapy perspective, is a boundary issue—an issue of distance regulation. You will not wall off and abandon me; nor will you intrude and try to control me. The neuroscientist Stephen Porges posits that feeling safety in another person with whom we interact consists of two imp