Loving What Is: How Four Questions Can Change Your Life

Allow your feelings to express themselves, without any fear of consequences or any threat of punishment.

And yet, if you pay attention, you’ll notice that you think thoughts like this dozens of times a day. “People should be kinder.” “Children should be well-behaved.” “My neighbors should take better care of their lawn.” “The line at the grocery store should move faster.” “My husband (or wife) should agree with me.” “I should be thinner (or prettier o

revelation6 is precisely this: that the left cerebral hemisphere of humans is prone to fabricating verbal narratives that do not necessarily accord with the truth.”

Katie: Who would you be in his presence without the thought “He shouldn’t be needy”?

You trade your integrity for harmony in the home. It doesn’t work. Spare yourself from seeking love, approval, or appreciation—from anyone. And watch what happens in reality, just for fun. Read your statement again.

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we discover that all the concepts and judgments that we believe or take for granted are distortions of things as they really are.