Love Yourself and Let the Other Person Have It Your Way
The first step in The Work is to identify the thoughts that are causing your stress and to write them down. These thoughts can be about any situation in your life, past, present, or future— about a person you dislike or worry about, a situation with someone who angers or frightens or saddens you, or someone you’re ambivalent or confused about. Writ
... See moreStephen Mitchell • Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
“Remember this great truth: Whoever or whatever it is you resist — whether in thought, word, or action, in the form of resentment, criticism, envy, jealousy, hatred, or otherwise — you most assuredly help, and you weaken yourself proportionately. Why? Because you have deliberately taken a portion of your precious life force so necessary to your pro
... See moreJohn McDonald • The Message of a Master
Stop torturing yourself with “what if — ?” You are talking yourself into those unhappy feelings. Stop fantasizing and start thinking positive, truthful thoughts — the kind described in 1 Corinthians 13. If you want to rebuild a love in your life, memorize 1 Corinthians 13. Meditate on it and start acting on it.
Rick Warren • God's Power to Change Your Life (Living with Purpose)
Be mindful that there’s not necessarily anything wrong with your actions, even if wanting control motivates them. This process simply helps you continue to be aware of which actions come from your desire to control, which will give you a better chance to release it on the spot. Then you can take the action or not—by choice.