You can feel both the part and the Self. Since you have accessed the part experientially, you can feel its emotions to some extent. However, at the same time your consciousness is primarily centered in Self. This combination provides extraordinary healing power.

I used to get very sad and lonely whenever my wife was away for more than a day. If she traveled for a weekend or, God forbid, a week, I would feel bereft and depressed. Once I learned IFS, I realized that these feelings were coming from a Deprived Child Part of me who was left alone in an incubator for weeks after I was born prematurely and then d