Inverting the vex

If something prevents you from getting to your destination on time, then this is a chance to practice patience. If an employee makes an expensive mistake, this is a chance to teach a valuable lesson. If a computer glitch erases your work, it’s a chance to start over with a clean slate. If someone hurts you, it’s a chance to practice forgiveness. If

Whenever we face something that throws our internal state off-kilter, we go about trying to solve it. We seek out a solution that moves disorder to order.

Another way of putting it: Does getting upset provide you with more options?

But when you turn your attention instead to the fact that you’re in a position to have an irritating experience in the first place, matters are liable to look very different indeed.