Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
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Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
Who knew that complimenting people was a twofer? The person who gives the compliment feels just as good as the person who gets it.
Caren Albers • Happiness Junkie: A 12 Step Program to Find Inner Peace and Change Your Life
You must also express your compliment in their language, by referencing what they value. They value competence above almost everything else, so they’re more likely to feel valued if you remark on how well they did something rather than if you focus on how correctly they did it or how much fun you’re having with them.
Steven Kessler • The 5 Personality Patterns: Your Guide to Understanding Yourself and Others and Developing Emotional Maturity
One of Scott's fundamental beliefs is that there is nothing kind in keeping quiet about a colleague's weaknesses. She calls this "ruinous empathy". Scott is a two-word-catchphrase-generating machine. While aiming to achieve "radical candour", you need to avoid "manipulative insincerity" and "obnoxious aggression". The key in giving feedback, she wr... See more
Financial Times • Positive feedback: the science of criticism that actually works
‘expressivity halo’: ‘people who communicate in an expressive, animated fashion tend to be liked more than difficult-to-read people; even if they are expressing something such as irritation. Because we’re more confident in our reading of them, they are less of a threat.’