Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
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Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
Who knew that complimenting people was a twofer? The person who gives the compliment feels just as good as the person who gets it.
You must also express your compliment in their language, by referencing what they value. They value competence above almost everything else, so they’re more likely to feel valued if you remark on how well they did something rather than if you focus on how correctly they did it or how much fun you’re having with them.
‘expressivity halo’: ‘people who communicate in an expressive, animated fashion tend to be liked more than difficult-to-read people; even if they are expressing something such as irritation. Because we’re more confident in our reading of them, they are less of a threat.’