Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
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Insufficiently complimentary?: Underestimating the positive impact of ...
I know that almost nobody hears too many sincere compliments. Compliment them to their face. Then, compliment them behind their back. Practice naming pleasant feelings you have about people, as soon as they bubble up, in the moment: “It’s always fun to see you.” Lower the resistance around this to zero.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
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Participants in three experiments wrote gratitude letters and then predicted how surprised, happy, and awkward recipients would feel. Recipients then reported how receiving an expression of gratitude actually made them feel. Expressers significantly underestimated how surprised recipients would be about why expressers were grateful, overestimated h... See more
Undervaluing Gratitude: Expressers Misunderstand the ...
You must also express your compliment in their language, by referencing what they value. They value competence above almost everything else, so they’re more likely to feel valued if you remark on how well they did something rather than if you focus on how correctly they did it or how much fun you’re having with them.