Emotionally Intelligent People Use the Rule of Reframing to Change Their Perspective, Think Differently, and Reduce Anxiety
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Emotionally Intelligent People Use the Rule of Reframing to Change Their Perspective, Think Differently, and Reduce Anxiety
When you catch yourself catastrophising in this way, try to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. With the right toolkit, we can come to realise things aren’t as bad as they seem – and so the fear becomes less intense. The scientific name for this process is ‘cognitive reappraisal’:5 changing the interpretation of a situation so that we
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In summary, it comes down to a few simple rules. Keep yourself process-oriented. Stay in the present. Make the process the goal and use the overall goal as a rudder to steer you efforts. Be deliberate, have an intention about what you want to accomplish, and be aware of that intention. Doing these things will eliminate the judgments and emotions th
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